I was out with Lyn this morning for a cup of tea. Whilst we were ordering, an acquaintance stopped by to congratulate us on completing our juicing experiment.
After telling us how radiant and thin we appeared, he asked if we had done the whole experiment for the purpose of losing weight. We explained we had not and that we don’t even own a scale. At that, he nodded sagely and said, “You know the weight will all come back don’t you?” He then continued to tell us about some friends of his and their yo yo diets.
Did he not hear that the aims of our 30 days of juicing had nothing to do with weight loss? To top it off, he made the assumption that we hadn’t considered all the risks of protein deficiency, weight variation being one of the least, and accounted for them. In the beginning of the second week, after the initial detoxification, we included high in protein additives such as spirulina, to our drinks.
Once the dieting stories were told, he ended with the sage advice to include protein from the very beginning should we ever choose to go on another juice quest because it would stop our weight from going up and down. AArgh!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure the advice and subsequent stories were given with the best of intentions. However, they would have been so unnecessary if he had just listened to our response to his initial question.
We didn’t bother to correct him. Unless they are in the moment, consciously listening, people tend to hear what they believe to be true and respond accordingly. It’s as if they’re in a perpetual state of communicating with themselves rather than with other unique individuals.
As I considered this, my spirit caused my mind to flash and I saw all the times I’d behaved in the exact same manner. It was humbling to say the least.
With so many different ways of perceiving reality and our predisposition to assume that others must see things as we do, is it any wonder the world is in such a state?
Traveller, if we want a better now and an even better tomorrow for the generations that follow, we must committ to being fully in the now. When we listen, we need to see the speaker as the most important person in our lives and truly hear what he or she is trying to communicate. In addition,we must at that moment suspend our own judgements, beliefs, emotions and filters.
If we can do this with thankful hearts, world peace can be the legacy we leave behind.